In a friend email, I could say that he was discussing the issue of how much an advisor should ask to students ?
Here is my proposed answer :
Indeed the sentence about advisors asking too much is very
Advisors ? They advise. The individuals are fully responsible for
their work. It took me years to understand that, but now it's clear
for me... as many of my young friends could tell you.
Then the advisors should not ask much or little. He/she should not ask
Either students do well, and they stay in an active group, or they
don't do enough, and they depart, because they would spoil the high
spirit of the team.
Let us also remember that life is difficult for some of us: low
money, jobs outside, poor (intellectually) family, health
problems... The advisor, in my idea, is there to be a friend, just
like referees: friendly people asking questions to make others be
sure of what they do.
And to finish : the summum of intelligence is kindness and